The 50 Best Sex Tips

The 50 Best Sex Tips

1. Sex isn't a Race
Sex isn't a race, so take time to explore her. Focus on her thighs and lower belly. Make a mental circle 2 inches around the outside of her vagina and don't cross the line while you kiss, lick, and caress.

2. Give Her Plenty of Time
If you want morning sex, set your alarm at least 20 minutes early. A woman won't want sex if she's hurried, and she'll probably need about 20 minutes to reach orgasm.

3. Grunts are Better Than Nothing
She'll give longer and more enthusiastic oral sex if you give her a verbal response. Even appreciative grunts are better than silence.

4. Vary the Stimulation
When you're all the way inside her, add side-to-side movement or up-and-down pelvic pressure against her clitoris to vary the stimulation.

5. Make a Fantasy Lottery
Both you and your lady write five sexual fantasies down on five separate notebook cards. Then head to a restaurant where you can get a booth and some privacy in a public setting. Over dinner and wine, pull out the cards and make three piles—"yes," "maybe someday," and "not on your life." Put the possibles in a shoe box, and once a month pull out a winner.

6. Mimic Her Style
Ask her to kiss your earlobe with the same pressure she prefers during oral, then cop her style next time you're south of the border.

7. Exercise Together
Work out together. Think of it as fat-burning foreplay. It will raise her dopamine levels, easing her anxieties. Bonus: Your post-run sweat has androstadienone, a testosterone derivative that spikes her arousal when she smells it.

8. Ignore Bombshells
Remain calm when a decked-out bombshell strolls by and you'll be sending the message that you're too smart to be wowed by a Wonderbra and red lipstick.

9. Give Her the Perfect Compliment
The best compliments are the ones that involve multiple senses. "You have beautiful breasts" is nice. "You have beautiful breasts—they feel so soft and warm in my hands" is that much more intimate.

10. Don't Give in to Temptation
If a woman who knows you're spoken for comes on to you, it's flattering. It's tempting. But remember that she's doing it to feed her own ego, not yours. She wants to see how much power she holds over you. And if you take her bait, she then knows she must be superior in every way to your sweetie. Deep down, she has nothing but contempt for both your male weakness and your mate's existence. That should really piss you off.

11. Find Her G-Spot
Use your thumb to press on her G-spot, as if you were making a thumbprint on her vaginal wall. You're shooting for the area about 2 inches inside the vaginal opening, on the front side.

12. Use Your Tongue Wisely
When kissing, don't use your tongue like a dart (in and out, in and out). Instead, try varying motions and amounts of pressure.

13. Doggy-Style the Right Way
Doggy-style tip: For over-the-top stimulation of her most nerve-packed parts, keep thrusting short and shallow, rather than deep and fast.

14. Tell Her What She Wants to Hear
Words she loves to hear: "I want to make you feel good."

15. Hang Out with Your Married Pals
Looking for The One? Don't abandon your spoken-for friends. A guy with a wife or live-in girlfriend has an expanded social circle—meaning he knows more women (that he could potentially introduce you to) than he did when he was single.

16. Keep Contact Indirect
The nerve-packed clitoris actually extends several inches under the skin on either side of her vagina (like a wishbone), which means you can massage it without direct pressure to the bud. Trace the extensions with flat, wide, extra-wet tongue strokes or slow finger zigzags. (Don't forget lube.) Then rub a slow spiral around the top, drawing closer with each pass. The combo of anticipation and indirect contact will bring her pleasure centers to life.

17. Send Her a Letter
Write her a letter—one that does not involve a laser printer or an e-mail address. Write what you feel, but the ruling sentiment should be one of gratitude and confidence in your future together. Then mail it to her.

18. Give Her a V
To increase clitoral contact when she's on top, make a V with two fingers, and place it so the point of the V (just between the two knuckles) is directly over her clitoris. Your fingers should come down on either side of your penis as she rides you. This will stimulate the clitoris, inner labia, and urethra—as well as add intensity for you.

19. Call Her within 48 Hours
A beautiful woman gave you her number; use it within 48 hours. Otherwise, you'll look scared—or stupid for resorting to high-school mind games.

20. Leave a Confident Voicemail
If you get her voicemail, leave a message. To convey confidence, your voice should be deep and moderately loud. Stand up and hum a little before you call—it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch.

21. Don't Go South During Foreplay
During foreplay, agree that the genitals are off-limits. Touch the other parts of her body, using fingers, a feather, a silk scarf, or anything that turns her on, and ask her to describe how it feels. This builds the tension until you're both ready to explode.

22. Ease into Dirty Talk
Want to know if she likes to talk dirty? Tell her, "You make me think dirty thoughts." Ease in slowly. It's best to test the waters a bit, rather than immediately go for your deepest, kinkiest dirty talk right off the bat.

23. Flatter Her 5 Times a Day
Compliment her at least 5 times a day. It'll make her feel special, appreciated, and closer to you. And the more connected she feels, the more sexually inspired she'll feel.

24. Shop for Cologne She Likes
If you don't have a cologne that she likes, shop for one with her. It's a form of foreplay.

25. Hold Her Hand
Holding hands can work as an aphrodisiac. It shows her you're devoted and proud to tell the world.

26. Assume a New Position
Assume the Cuban Plunge sex position: As you assume the man-on-top position, ask her to bring her knees to her chest and drape her legs over your shoulders. Her vagina will be elongated and extended, and your penetration will be deeper and more pleasurable for her, which qualifies as a win-win situation.

27. Praise Her
Compliment her in front of your friends.

28. Just Kiss
The next time you kiss her, don't try to steal second. Just kiss. Men use kissing primarily as a means to an end—to advance sexual relations. Yet women mainly use kissing as a way to monitor the status of the relationship, and especially a partner's commitment level.

29. Keep the Lights Low
One of the biggest reasons women can't relax during sex is body image. Keep the lights low. A candle? Perfect.

30. Show Her Passion
"Passion" means being in the moment and not being distracted. Sex is a conversation, and she doesn't want to feel like you wish you had your BlackBerry.

31. Whisper Fantasies in Public
Lie on a blanket in a park, with people all around, and whisper fantasies to one another, sparing no detail. You'll create sexual tension—but with safety, as there's no possibility of sex then and there.

32. Create Anticipation
Use anticipation as an aphrodisiac. Instead of tearing her clothes off, take your time. Tell her what you want to do with each section of exposed skin.

33. Tell Her to Go Slow
Words she loves to hear: "It's OK to go slow." Say it and mean it.

34. Sit at a 90-Degree Angle
On a dinner date, always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her rather than straight on. If she sits at the end of the table, sit in the first seat to her left. Turn toward her from the waist, which will give her the opportunity to turn toward you.

35. Don't Agree to Disagree
When you and your girlfriend disagree, never agree to disagree. Agreeing to disagree shuts down the communication process and resolves nothing. And the less comfortable she feels communicating, the less confident she'll feel about the relationship.

36. Ask Her for a Kissing Lesson
Ask her to demonstrate what she considers a sexy kiss. Then let her do all the work. It's educational...and fun.

37. Mix Things Up in Bed
Don't be afraid to mix things up in bed. Sexual novelty re-creates those early-relationship, take-me-now hormones.

38. Fund a Sexy Shopping Spree
Fund an erotic shopping spree. Write out a gift certificate with an expiration date that coincides with your evening at a hotel. If she prefers to shop alone, let her—either way, you'll find out what interests her.

39. Start Volunteering
Join a volunteer group. Selflessness is sexy—and research has shown that women consider altruism more important than men do. To show your selfless stuff, join a Meetup volunteer group (volunteerism.meetup.com).

40. Start Sex in a New Place
Start sex outside the bedroom. The same old place leads to the same old patterns. So explore some new erogenous areas: The kitchen. The bathroom. Quebec City. Your bodies will be in new places, making it unlikely that you'll follow old routines.

41. Offer Her Chocolate
Feed her chocolate: It'll load her up with phenylethylamine, a neurotransmitter that activates the brain's pleasure center, and caffeine, which can jolt her sex drive.

42. Ride in an Overnight Train
Take an overnight train with your girlfriend or wife. There's the excitement of traveling in a novel way. And there's your sleeping compartment. It's a new place—and it moves, which adds a new dynamic to sex. And it's somewhat public: There's the excitement when you're in flagrante delicto as the train stops, and people are outside your window.

43. Use Appliances as Vibrators
Here's a new place to have sex: on the washer. Your washing machine produces more vibration than any other appliance in the home. When your butt's on the lid, the motion is transmitted through your penis, essentially turning your member into a life-size vibrator.

44. Use Your Beanbag Chair
Another new place to have sex: in a beanbag chair. You can contour it to any shape, and it'll support you in unaccustomed ways. Doggy-style sex works great when she's on her belly, draped over the amorphous blob (that's the chair, not you).

45. Have Sex in a Forest
New Place to Have Sex III: a national park. If the missus likes to vocalize, pitch your tent in Alaska's Denali National Park, where 6 million untamed acres and a crowd-thinning permit system leave little risk of waking the neighbors. She'll gasp in delight when the midnight sun bathes the Big One (that's Mt. McKinley, buddy) in salmon pink light.

46. Stop the Elevator
New Place to Have Sex IV: the elevator. Try a freight elevator. It won't have an alarm, and you can stop it between floors for more privacy.

47. Seduce Her in Your Car
Relive the past. Take her to the garage and reclaim a space you long ago ceded: Seduce her in the backseat of the car. It feels a little public, it's steeped in testosterone, and there's a throwback, high-school quality to it.

48. Earn Your Right to Experiment
Sexual experimentation is earned, not inherited. It requires time, tact, and trust: 66 percent of the women we surveyed said they're most willing to experiment later in a relationship.

49. Give Her a Proper Warmup
Clitoral contact in particular feels abrasive without a proper warmup. If a woman yips or inhales suddenly when you go there—instead of purring or moaning—you've jumped the gun.

50.Try a New Sex Position
Try the Yab-Yum sex position: You both sit up, and she faces you, sitting on your lap with a pillow under her bottom for easier penetration. You'll have constant contact with her clitoris, but she'll control the pressure.

85 Fun Facts About Sex

85 Fun Facts About Sex

There’s one ultimate goal during sex: to be as sensually stimulated as possible. The secret to achieving that blissful state? Having lots of steamy info at your disposal. As they say, knowledge is power…and pleasure. So we found a ton of just-discovered facts—some make it easier to orgasm, others will help you please him, and the rest...well, they’ll make great convo-starters.

1 People who have sex about three times a week are perceived to look four to seven years younger.

2 Women place a higher importance on looks than men do when looking for a casual sex partner.

3 But that may not be smart. One poll found that computer nerds make the best lovers, with 82 percent of IT geeks claiming they put their partner’s pleasure above their own.

4 Sadly, only 41 percent of fitness professionals were as selfless.

5 Get it on the night before you need to bring some great ideas to the office. According to anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., sex triggers brain chemicals that can improve creativity at work.

6 Don’t wait to feel turned on before you make a move. Most women experience arousal after the fun has already begun. 

7 Single women are more attracted to men who are taken than to those who are available.

8 Strippers earn more money when they’re ovulating. Scientists suspect it’s because of the pheromones their body releases. Do a striptease for your guy when you’re ovulating two weeks before your period—and it will likely create some serious heat.

9 An orgasm can cure your stage fright! A Scottish study found that following Sexual release, people had an easier time with public speaking.

10 Guys find your voice more attractive during that time of the month— meaning, period sex is a prime time to add some dirty talk to the mix.

11 One study found that men on the prowl are more likely to spend money on luxury items for themselves than those who aren’t searching for a mate.

12 Watch a short porn scene before hopping in bed with your guy. Research found that 58 percent of men and women who regularly use porn felt more comfortable with their sexuality and tending to their partner’s sexual needs.

13 It’s the sweet stuff that really gets females hot. A study found that women were more turned on watching a man kissing a woman than having sex with her. So try kissing him in front of a mirror.

14 A UK study found that most men prefer women with some curves to super-skinny waifs.

15 Try a little spanking during sex, and don’t worry about the sting. Oxytocin, one of the sex chemicals released when you’re getting it on, reduces pain by about half. 

16 Peyronie’s disease is a condition in which a man’s penis curves. A drug used to straighten bent fingers is now being tested to fix it. 

17 A study says intercourse lasts about 16 minutes for Europeans and just 7 minutes for Americans. Make a ring with your fingers and squeeze around the base of his shaft to make him last longer.

18 Men take more risks when they know hot women are looking.

19 Snuggle with him while watching TV at night. Couples who cuddle regularly are eight times less likely to get depressed than those who kiss only during intercourse.

20 Experts have discovered that high levels of the hormone oestradiol make women more likely to cheat. The reason? It creates bigger breasts and smaller waists. As a result, they tend to get more attention and, therefore, have more sexual opportunities.

21 Researchers found that watching porn doesn’t negatively affect a man’s views about women.

22 A poll found that those who consume the most online pornography live in the most conservative and religious states.

23 One study done on newlyweds found that couples’ negative feelings about their sex life had more of an impact on their marital satisfaction than concerns about nonsexual issues did.

24 Athletic women say their sexual performance is better...

25 ...and maybe that’s because female pro athletes have both better clitoral blood flow and higher sexual satisfaction than women who don’t exercise.

26 Furthermore, one study found that just 20 minutes of exercise before going at it will improve your sexual response.

27 Take time to really figure out your feelings—it could help you in the bedroom. See, women with high emotional intelligence experience more orgasms.

28 Almost 53 percent of women have used external stimulation. If you haven’t tried it, start with a small one that won’t overwhelm you.

29 A study of college students found that over a two-year period, both men and women had twice as many hook-ups as first dates.

30 Worldwide, only 30 percent of men are circumcised. Dating an uncut guy? Keep in mind that the tip of his penis may be more sensitive because it’s not always exposed. So you may need to use a slightly more gentle touch.

31 The average number of sexual partners for heterosexual men is seven; for heterosexual women, it’s four.

32 A woman has a better shot at climaxing during sex if the walls of her vaginal canal are stimulated. A study found that penis length doesn’t help accomplish this—girth does. Make him feel girthier by keeping your legs together during sex. It creates more friction.

33 Still, that doesn’t stop men from seeking out enhancements. A handful of new gadgets on the market claim to help men add length and possibly girth to their penis.

34 If that doesn’t work, he can try dropping a few kilos. For every 16 kilos an overweight man loses, his penis appears to grow one inch.

35 Scientists believe that some women have a more active G-spot than others. Trying various positions, like leaning back while you’re on top, may help him stimulate it if yours isn’t as active.

36 Having sex once a week can improve your immune function by 30 percent.

37 One study found that women get physically aroused by a much wider variety of erotic imagery than men do.

38 Researchers are testing Viagra on women with sexual dysfunction—72 percent of those taking it noticed improvement in their sexual response.

39 A 2010 study found that the better a woman’s genital self-image, the easier it is for her to orgasm.

40 Phew! Most couples over 65 in the US still have sex at least once a week.

41 It was discovered that wearing two inch heels may improve the strength of the pelvic muscles, which in turn helps you orgasm.

42 A study found that 84 percent of women have had sex just to ‘keep the peace’ with their partner.

43 For five minutes per day, tense and relax your PC muscles (the ones that hold in pee). It may give you better orgasms.

44 In a survey of multi-millionaires, 70 percent felt that money gave them better sex.

45 Women who masturbate regularly are more likely to experience orgasm during intercourse.

46 A foetus responds to mom getting it on: it can sense blood-pressure and heartrate changes, and it feels non-sexual excitement.

47 Lie on top of him for a bit while you’re both naked. Skin-on-skin contact floods the body with oxytocin, a hormone that makes you feel close. 

48 One in four women over 35 says she has never had sex.

49 Some lucky women can orgasm from breast stimulation alone. Find out if you can do it by asking him to spend extra time there.

50 A man’s body odour turns a woman on. So jump him before he hits the shower post-gym.

51 A global Durex survey found that Austrians engage in oral sex more than people in any other country.

52 Women are 10 times more sensitive to touch than men are. So before the action really gets going, ask him to run his fingers over your entire body.

53 Two-thirds of college students have been involved in a friends-withbenefits situation.

54 Your morning coffee may be an aphrodisiac: one study found that caffeine made rats hornier.

55 A study found that women experience more pleasure with men who make more money.

56 Thirty-six percent of people under 35 go on Facebook or Twitter or send texts after sex.

57 The ‘sexual pursuit’ part of a man’s brain is two-and-a-half times bigger than women’s.

58 Married women get it on more often than unmarried women do.

59 Experts have discovered a new pleasure centre: the anterior fornix, known as the A-spot, located on the upper wall of the vagina, near the cervix. When stimulated, it increases lubrication. The moves that arouse your G-spot will hit this area too.

60 An Archives Of Sexual Behaviour study found that after looking at sexy images, most women showed physical signs of arousal but didn’t feel that hot.

61 That glazed look a man gets when he sees breasts? His visual brain circuits are on the lookout for signs of fertility.

62 The best orgasms are the ones where all your senses are engaged. But researchers found that when you’re lying down, some senses are reduced. Try climbing on top.

63 Thirty minutes of sex burns, on average, 85 or more calories.

64 In a study conducted with British and Namibian subjects, researchers found that although each group could identify sounds of anger or fear in the other group, neither recognised the others’ moans of delight as sounds of pleasure.

65 When women orgasm, the areas of the brain associated with fear shut off.

66 The more genetically diverse a woman is, the greater her number of partners. Potential mates are attracted to those who are dissimilar, so the more variation in her DNA, the more appealing she is. 

67 Eighty-two percent of people who say they are sexually satisfied also report feeling respected by their partner during sex.

68 Experts say that regular sex can help alleviate migraines.

69 Make Sunday cleaning day and you might see your sex life spike. A paper found that couples who do more housework have more sex. 

70 Giving him a massage may get you excited, as much as him.

71 Women with greater finger sensitivity had more sex with their partner.

72 One in every four Americans is ‘too tired’ to have sex.

73 African-Americans and Hispanics have sex before going to bed more frequently than whites and Asians do.

74 Fifty-six percent of men say they wish their penis was bigger. Boost his ego when you’re down south by saying “I can’t even take all of you in.”

75 Exploring your spirituality, whether it’s by reading a spiritual book or learning to meditate, could improve your sex life.

76 Women who were sexually unsatisfied found that practicing meditation improved their arousal and gave them better orgasms.

77 Thirty-one percent of men reported having trouble getting an erection...

78 ...And 34 percent of men had trouble maintaining one.

79 While 95 percent of women consider penile - vaginal intercourse sex, only 89 percent agree if there’s no ejaculation.

80 Couples who don’t have a TV in their bedroom have 50 percent more sex. According to researchers, getting it on decreases significantly with the addition of a television.

81 A study done of 900 films over a four-year period found that sex and nudity in movies did not boost box-office success.

82 About one-half of couples find that each partner initiates sex equally as often.

83 One survey found that Spain has the best lovers...or at least that’s how their women rated them.

84 A recent study found that people with higher rates of poverty had more sex.

85 Keep your gaze locked on his. Experts say eye contact can increase sexual attraction and the sex can hit the roof!